If there’s one coffee session I wouldn’t forget that easy is the one with Francis Kong and one of the samples he gave us during that private coffee session was about his temper. He shared that one of his friends told him (rephrased) : “You know Francis, my temper should be excused. I might get angry easily but it also subsides very fast.”
Quick-witted, Francis replied with the analogy:
“Sure, but its like a grenade — it explodes fast too, but it leaves a lot of people dead.”
This short response reminds me of this specific proverb:
Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him. (Proverbs 29:20)
This is what we call reacting versus responding. As a quick summary:
- Reaction is quick. Response takes time.
- Reaction is emotion-filled. Response removes all emotion.
- Reaction is often aggressive. Response allows for assertiveness without aggression.
- Reaction snowballs into unnecessary and prolonged periods of discontent and disagreement. Response resolves conflict quickly.
I am sorry Bruno Mars but I would have to contend to your premise because no one is designed to catch a grenade. When we’re quick to anger, it is as if we’re throwing grenades to people — it is never a good sight and never did it produce anything good. I pray that we may be like what James said in the Bible too:
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; (James 1:19)