Can you really catch a grenade?

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If there’s one coffee session I wouldn’t forget that easy is the one with Francis Kong and one of the samples he gave us during that private coffee session was about his temper. He shared that one of his friends told him (rephrased) : “You know Francis, my temper should be excused. I might get angry easily but it also subsides very fast.”

Quick-witted, Francis replied with the analogy:

“Sure, but its like a grenade — it explodes fast too, but it leaves a lot of people dead.”

This short response reminds me of this specific proverb:

Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him. (Proverbs 29:20)

This is what we call reacting versus responding. As a quick summary:

  • Reaction is quick. Response takes time.
  • Reaction is emotion-filled. Response removes all emotion.
  • Reaction is often aggressive. Response allows for assertiveness without aggression.
  • Reaction snowballs into unnecessary and prolonged periods of discontent and disagreement. Response resolves conflict quickly.

I am sorry Bruno Mars but I would have to contend to your premise because no one is designed to catch a grenade. When we’re quick to anger, it is as if we’re throwing grenades to people — it is never a good sight and never did it produce anything good. I pray that we may be like what James said in the Bible too:

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; (James 1:19)

How can you practice being more patient starting today?

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(Im)mature

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When we’re faced with situations in life, especially for the things that we like, do we go for it right away or do we go slowly or with hesitation?

This year’s key theme for #Discipleship2019 is the third in the 4Es of discipleship in Victory, which is EQUIP. 

Defining the word, this means “to prepare for a specific task” and how it was broken down through a verse was pretty simple.

In our lives, what we usually do is  we learn from mentors, then we master it, then we apply when confident already. I know it for a fact because I too have been there, in career and in ministry.

However, the Apostle Paul states it differently:

11 And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds[a] and teachers,[b] 12 to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, 13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood,[c] to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, (Ephesians 4:11-13)

First, Paul stated the mentors we can have (the apostles, the prophets…), and then jumps already to action with “to equip the saints for the work…” and then we can see a switch from the process of what we know as stated above–that maturity comes AFTER actually doing the work.

Have you ever been into situations where we learn, and learn, and learn about one topic but we don’t apply them? That’s like holding everything in theory but without application, one could never reach maturity. With action comes risk, and its a risk that we should take to learn, grow, and MATURE.

And that’s the point. We go and do, even when we think we’re inadequate. As Ptr Steve Murell put it:

The more you do ministry, the more you mature.”

And besides, we will never be fully ready for any situation, so we might as well go and minister.

Our seeming immaturity shouldn’t stop us from going. 

 

 

Here I Am.

 

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I have an annual tradition of writing a recap about the year that was. This 2018, I wasn’t able to make a comprehensive list of what I learned and who I met, and what nots. I write them as a marker of my life, and how it progresses under His grace.

I have written something about 2018 though, but more on a greater scope of what I have learned which is all about thankfulness despite everything.

Part of my morning (I try to be as consistent as I can), before I do anything, is to read God’s Word. This morning, I strongly felt how God wants us to be.

“Here I am.”

This was Samuel’s response when he was called by our Lord, even when he doesn’t know who He is yet. Continue reading “Here I Am.”

Great is My Thankfulness

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2018 is almost ending and as we see this year’s end, we would see more of the “what’s your highlight of 2018” or say #BestNine from Instagram. But let me flip the switch and ask you:

“What’s your worst in 2018?”

Admittedly, 2018 isn’t one of my ‘best’ seasons as compared to 2017 which by far one of the best as I can say. Two years in the solopreneur game, and two different results.

Of course, I started 2018 full of hope and faith declarations. So much to say, this was a year that I said I wanted to know more about faith.

This year was filled with disappointments, failures than the usual, lost clients, mismanagement of resources (or a seemingly lack of it) and fear of the future. This was even well-documented in this page as part of the process. My last post was even one of the lowest yet one of the best in terms of lessons.

As from the last post, and as of writing, there will still be bouts of doubt and wanting to give up. Yet, there is this something in me that just won’t quit. I asked for faith, and got trials instead. I wanted intimacy but I felt alone most of the time. There were so many times I just wanted to give up, but I am still here.

“give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18 ESV)

If there’s one thing that I constantly did this year, is this, to be thankful for whatever that has happened. I don’t know but I just did develop this like it came by default in every situation.

What’s amazing with the verse said above is thankfulness IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES! Continue reading “Great is My Thankfulness”

Whatever it Takes

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Have you been in a situation where you have been in a rut and then opportunities come all of a sudden and all the while they seem harmless, yet they could pretty much set how you would become?

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. (Matthew 7:7 Berean)

I have been doing freelance work under my team I Saw Design_Studio but things have been a bit thin the past few months. Though I did great last year, this year came a dip in sales in design work and retainers who became steady income is gone.

Then some job opportunities came in out from nowhere and it dawned on me “Yeah, I can go back and at least have an area to augment my finances.” My reasoning was “I could do this full time and then do side projects again to sustain I Saw.” That was my “Whatever it takes” idea.

I had a final interview with a CEO earlier and I was taken to school (almost literally) because of how it went down. Admittedly, it was nerve-wracking, brutally honest, but the sort of conversation I really needed.

Some points I got from the conversation: Continue reading “Whatever it Takes”

Caffeinated morning with Mr. Kong

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One thing I have learned over the years, or at least in the years when I started to become bolder, was to take every opportunity that you can get. Proceed with caution, use wisdom especially in high-risk ones, and take the ones that you deem necessary to add in your arsenal.

But there are ones which you just take out of the blue, looking low risk yet high in rewards. So I tried joining this Success Options’ contest of having coffee with Francis Kong, one of most respected business speakers in the Philippines. The only requirement? Send one question that you would like to ask him in person.

“How do you do your business without compromising your faith?”

Amazingly, I did win! I don’t believe in luck, but I believe in God’s divine appointments. This one is one of those moments in which you’d be surprised and ask “Why me?” but then again, also reminds me of how God’s grace works. We can’t earn it, yet it is given–freely.

I have only seen Francis Kong speak once, in a 2016 event called “Will to Win” and I was amazed in how he was able to mix business excellence and his faith in Christ. Amazingly, that event was one of the events that helped me mix my faith in Jesus and my craft and speaking engagements about design.

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And there I was, in that coffee session along with three more winners for that breakfast with Mr. Francis Kong. It was almost a family affair for them as it was a small, intimate breakfast with him, his famous Ilocana wife, and his daughter, Rachel Kong (who’s also the current CEO of Success Options, Inc.).

Here are my major takeaways from that breakfast. Continue reading “Caffeinated morning with Mr. Kong”

10,000 (com)Promises

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This year has been super interesting so far.

It was in 2016 when I started doing ‘public speaking’ by teaching design through I Saw Design and that really opened up some doors for me; opportunities that happened because I stepped out in faith in line with goals of knowing if I could teach and adding value to others by teaching design.

Fast forward to this year, I have done 24 (more or less) graphic design classes, and leveled up a bit by organizing talks that feature great design/creative personalities, and it’s just getting started with more ideas in the pipeline. This has also opened up some avenues for me in getting speaking engagements.

Here’s the catch–they are not design talks.

Now the Lord said to Abram, “Go from your country and your kindred and your father’s house to the land that I will show you. And I will make of you a great nation, and I will bless you and make your name great, so that you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and him who dishonors you I will curse, and in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed.” (Genesis 12:1-3 ESV)

Been pondering on this and why can good things be bad?  Continue reading “10,000 (com)Promises”

Running is boring

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Running is boring. 

I mean, in reality, it is. You go run, have left and right feet strike the ground repeatedly, for either a set duration of time or distance. Nothing else.

It’s repetitive and can be painful in the long run (pun intended). YET there’s something about it that’s why we do it. I, for one, do it inasmuch as I can, constantly.

This is why this book by Ptr Ferdie, Run, was just timely. I had an early copy because I was there in #Discipleship2018 (I wrote about it here), and immediately, I read and finished it right away. It got me glued because I was able to relate to Ptr Ferdie right away.

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But it wasn’t who he is what got me more, but it was how he related the Gospel to running. One detail that I really liked about this is something that we hear too often at the church: Continue reading “Running is boring”

If I Was There

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I have been meaning to do something about mixing art and writing and with a real plan of creating one bigger devotional book, gave time and energy this Holy Week to create a smaller one thus this series “If I Was There”.

As a primer, I have always been “envious” of the squad Jesus had (same sentiments with my friend, Micah). I mean, to be with Jesus, that would have been amazing, right? Still with this verse:

Jesus said to him, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.” (John 20:29 ESV)

Yes, we’re blessed today but I cannot help but think, what if I was there?

To share the same air, walk in the same earth He walked on? 

Let me take you on this journey to that time when Jesus entered Jerusalem until His eventual death on the cross, and then His triumphant resurrection.

This is for FREE! I just wanted to share this wonderful attempt in sharing the drama that unfolded, that one that gave hope to every one of us. Happy Easter to everyone! :)

You may download the ebook here.

 

Nothing to prove, no one to Impress

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I stumbled upon this article last week about a woman who racked a massive debt of about $20,000 just for her to have Instagram stardom. It was a sad story of our lives, just focused and visualized thru this woman’s life. We’re like living lives with GREAT FACADES, but in reality, BAD FOUNDATIONS.

ESTABLISH– this is the point of this year’s #Discipleship2018 conference attended by about 11,000 Victory group leaders and interns. If last year was about ENGAGE (and I wrote about it too last year) his year’s theme was to establish Biblical foundations which is crucial and important in a leader’s life.

If there are two things that I believe as I write about leadership in this blog is this: 1. That everyone is a leader whether we like it or not, and 2. Because of that, we need to be mindful of our actions because it directly influences the people who follow us. That is the reason why I write about leadership, it is because I know I need to have quality leadership skills for others.

I cannot explain everything that was discussed this year, but good thing is that all the preaching can be found here, but I will be pointing out the one that struck me most. Continue reading “Nothing to prove, no one to Impress”