What’s the Real Deal with Love?


4.54 billion years.

Doing a quick search in the internets (as the millennials call it), the Earth is about 4.54 billion years old according to science. By dating rocks and meteorites, scientists have concluded this range with an error range of 50 millions years.

Zooming in, us humans have been speculated to be 200,000 years old, and civilizations only about 6,000 years. Along these lines, we have had so many developments in the society in different fields.

Despite these numbers and seemingly factual statements, here we are today still having problems in an area I’m pretty sure existed too back then—love.

It just amazes me that after all these years, we are still having these problems with love. As one local celebrity said last year,“Guys, it’s already 2017!”, and now we’re at 2018 and we’re still seemingly clueless. Making and maintaining relationships are still a dilemma for all of us; not one excluded here. We may have developments in tech, algorithms and all that, we still can’t find the right rhythm for our hearts. Why so?

Last night, I had the chance to attend a yearly event that is ALWAYS the blockbuster among all, a love event in the church. This year’s event is named “Truth About Love”, and that elusive truth about it is what all attendees were wanting to hear about.

Skipping all the warm-up activities (which I skipped too because of another event next door), I was just in time for the preaching of the Word by none other than the newest Senior Pastor of Victory Malate, Ptr Ritchie Llanto. 


To start, this would be written in the Biblical perspective. If you’re not subscribed to this, it’s okay, you can stop reading. If you’d still want to read, which I would be glad for you to do so, plow through. Not here to change your mind, but I’m just here to present a perspective taken from God’s Word. Some of these are infused too of how I have learned it from other preachings by pastors and other book reads.

To summarize things, let me put them in three bullet points: Continue reading “What’s the Real Deal with Love?”


Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail

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I don’t usually start these blogs with quotes but I just think it’s very appropriate, and this one is very simple and beautiful; it’s an advice from an old carpenter to his apprentice:

“Measure twice and saw once.” (taken from Maxwell’s “Think of These Things” book)

It’s amazing how simple this quote is; it’s about building a house yet applicable in how we should go about life. Measuring twice is about planning, ensuring that we thoroughly think on what we do now as it is critical and if we don’t, the repercussions are more expensive when we don’t.

I am writing about this because I recently have an experience that showed the importance of planning ahead and planning well, or else it’s going to take toll on you. Though I have more experience before because I know I wasn’t a planner before, this one I took note because it’s just timely and expensive at the same time. Continue reading “Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail”

#MayForever , really?


Spoiler: There really is a forever, and you know it.

Victory Malate, the local church I am going to, just had a singles event earlier entitled #MayForever which directly contradicts the popular hashtag #WalangForever, spurned by a lot of stories of heartaches and broken relationships due to several factors.

The idea of forever has always been present in the human psyche ever since. That’s why we have always been fascinated by stories of immortality (vampire stories), elixirs, fountain of youth, and with the change in time, the common view of forever now is in the context of love, or companionship.

Humans have a vacuum, a void inside us. We may not readily admit it, but we do, that’s why we try to fill this void with a lot of things, like the next adventure, newest gadget, or say… relationships. The classic “You complete me” line brings chills to us yet in reality, it falls short to our expectations. It’s romantic to hear, but when we fill ourselves with someone who’s also finite, things could and actually WILL fall apart. We’ve seen this with countless stories of failed relationships; I know because I have been in one.

Going back to the event, the speakers are Malate’s own power couple (or it’s just me saying that as I look up to them), Charlton and Vanne Maderal. Continue reading “#MayForever , really?”


* I would like to place this note that I am not in any way an expert in relationships, but this is based on reading, asking around to people, and of course, personal experience. I only had two relationships, one during college and one a failed nine-year relationship, and currently actively preparing this season.

Recently, I was invited to be interviewed at a show with a set of questions regarding the start of a relationship. I prepared for it in a week, asking the men in the church regarding it so I could properly answer, according to Scripture. Then that day came and with God’s twist, the scenario changed to a ‘debate’ on placing labels on relationships.

Not my first time on television, but surely this was the most nerve-wracking one. And who knows, this won’t be the last I talk about Biblical manhood.

Talk about getting shocked.

The scenario would be: how important is it for us to have labels in the relationship nowadays, or we could survive with the modern “Oh we’re a thing“, exclusively dating but no labels like boyfriend or girlfriend.  I was placed, of course, on the traditional “we-need-labels” relationships.

The points on the modern no label kind of relationships does pose some valid points, like trust issues (you just trust and love, no labels), and about having a “leash”. It does place some points that are indeed good, basing on trust. Labels place unwanted pressure in both parties, they said.

Here are my thoughts on this, summarized in points:
Continue reading “LINES and LABELS”